My Brother....
Dec. 21st, 2014 10:12 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
fredbassettMy brother Christopher died this morning. He was only 62.
I shall miss him more than I can possibly say, and even though I have my beloved Mr FB, the world does seem a much lonelier place today than it did yesterday.
Chris had been in poor health for a very long time. He had the same neck problem I have, with nerve compression on the C6/7 nerve, but his was much worse, and even with various operations it resulted in him losing much of the use of his left arm. Associated problems with other nerves also meant he lost much of the feeling in his legs quite a few years ago. He drove a hand control adapted car and had recently got a mobility scooter that he'd been having fun with. But he lived with constant, chronic pain and had to have morphine patches and other pain control drugs all the time. Another operation wasn't on the cards as he'd had a minor heart attack in Spain a couple of years ago, on holiday there, and they didn't think he could stand a general anesthetic, but they were hoping to give him another nerve block in the new year as his left arm was causing him a lot of pain again, as was his back.
He had two minor falls last week, the second on Wednesday. I spoke to him on Friday when he was in bed, pretty immobile, but he still sounded cheerful. I never once heard him grumble or sound down, no matter how much pain he was in. He was admitted to hospital later that day, in an attempt to control the pain and get him mobilised again. He was more comfortable yesterday. The last thing I had from him was an email saying he'd just been bollocked as he'd had his phone on and it interfered with the monitors. He still sounded cheerful.
I'm glad I spoke to him on Friday, and by email yesterday, but I'm so sorry I didn't get to see him in January. I'd been planning to get up to see him, my sister in law and my niece then.
No one ever said life was going to be fair, but this does seem particularly harsh. We all thought my dad died died young at 67, but this is even worse.
His wife loved him more than I can possibly say, so did his daughter. I've lost my big brother, but they've lost a husband and father. I have some idea of what they're going through now, and I wish I was able to be with them in person, but we're in France.
He was always there for me, and I could always talk to him when I needed to. He always understood.
Rest in peace, Christopher James Richard Wilson. I loved you and I was so very proud of you.
I shall miss him more than I can possibly say, and even though I have my beloved Mr FB, the world does seem a much lonelier place today than it did yesterday.
Chris had been in poor health for a very long time. He had the same neck problem I have, with nerve compression on the C6/7 nerve, but his was much worse, and even with various operations it resulted in him losing much of the use of his left arm. Associated problems with other nerves also meant he lost much of the feeling in his legs quite a few years ago. He drove a hand control adapted car and had recently got a mobility scooter that he'd been having fun with. But he lived with constant, chronic pain and had to have morphine patches and other pain control drugs all the time. Another operation wasn't on the cards as he'd had a minor heart attack in Spain a couple of years ago, on holiday there, and they didn't think he could stand a general anesthetic, but they were hoping to give him another nerve block in the new year as his left arm was causing him a lot of pain again, as was his back.
He had two minor falls last week, the second on Wednesday. I spoke to him on Friday when he was in bed, pretty immobile, but he still sounded cheerful. I never once heard him grumble or sound down, no matter how much pain he was in. He was admitted to hospital later that day, in an attempt to control the pain and get him mobilised again. He was more comfortable yesterday. The last thing I had from him was an email saying he'd just been bollocked as he'd had his phone on and it interfered with the monitors. He still sounded cheerful.
I'm glad I spoke to him on Friday, and by email yesterday, but I'm so sorry I didn't get to see him in January. I'd been planning to get up to see him, my sister in law and my niece then.
No one ever said life was going to be fair, but this does seem particularly harsh. We all thought my dad died died young at 67, but this is even worse.
His wife loved him more than I can possibly say, so did his daughter. I've lost my big brother, but they've lost a husband and father. I have some idea of what they're going through now, and I wish I was able to be with them in person, but we're in France.
He was always there for me, and I could always talk to him when I needed to. He always understood.
Rest in peace, Christopher James Richard Wilson. I loved you and I was so very proud of you.
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Date: 2014-12-21 10:21 am (UTC)I'm so sorry. He sounds a thoroughly brilliant person.
You know where I am if you think I can help at all.
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Date: 2014-12-23 02:18 pm (UTC)Thanks. That means a lot.
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Date: 2014-12-21 10:56 am (UTC)Very very sorry to hear that, Fred... He sounds like he was a wonderfully optimistic person despite all that life had thrown at him. HUGS to you and your family
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Date: 2014-12-21 11:06 am (UTC)If there is anything you need, just shout.
*hugs*
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Date: 2014-12-21 11:11 am (UTC)62 is far too young to go.
I'm sending good thoughts you and your family's way. This will be an Xmas with a very sad side for you all.
*hugs*
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Date: 2014-12-21 11:37 am (UTC)So very sorry, thoughts with you and your family.
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Date: 2014-12-23 02:20 pm (UTC)*hugs back*
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Date: 2014-12-21 11:49 am (UTC)Your brother sounds like a wonderful person, my thought are with you and the rest of the family.
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Date: 2014-12-23 02:22 pm (UTC)Love to both of you.
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Date: 2014-12-21 01:26 pm (UTC)Condolences to you all; and much love to you personally. (((hugs)))
Please do contact me if you need anything I can offer.
Peace.
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Date: 2014-12-21 02:16 pm (UTC)*hugs you*
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Date: 2014-12-21 03:07 pm (UTC)If there's anything at all I can do for you, please let me know.
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Date: 2014-12-21 05:05 pm (UTC)All my love.
XXXX
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Date: 2014-12-21 07:33 pm (UTC)Love and {{{{HUGS}}}.
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Date: 2014-12-23 02:25 pm (UTC)*hugs back*
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Date: 2014-12-21 09:57 pm (UTC)Losing a loved one is always difficult, but it's particularly hard this time of year. I can only imagine the pain you and your family must be feeling, especially as your brother was so young and seemed in such good spirits, despite all the hardships he was forced to deal with. Christopher sounds like an incredibly brave man and someone we should all be proud of. I'm glad he had so much love from his family and I'm sure he's now at peace and free of pain.
If you ever need to talk, please feel free to send me a PM or you can email me at armour_rusty@yahoo.ca.
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Date: 2014-12-23 02:26 pm (UTC)That's very of kind you. I really appreciate it.